Good Conversation Starter, 3 Sure-Fire Tips to Flirt Successfully & Break the Ice With Women Or Men

Here's practical advice for meeting women (or men). You're waiting for an elevator or you're squeezed 'the Charmin at the market when you spot someone intriguing. You break the ice with a smile. Even a slight chin or eyebrow lift can get his or her attention. Next comes the fun (or scary) part: saying something. But what? These three tips guarantee that you'll always know how to start a conversation. Better yet, you'll always have something relevant and attention-getting to say. The point of using these tips is to create friendly rapport. You never know where small talk might lead. Just as an acorn grows into a mighty oak, small talk grows into real conversation. And beyond.

Tip # 1. Compliment someone

Compliments pack a double whammy:

  • Everyone loves sincere compliments. They get people's attention and create a receptive mood for conversation.
  • Second, when you're looking for ways to pay a compliment, you're looking for the good in – or on – someone else. That takes your focus off yourself and your rating on the confidence-o-meter and puts it where it belongs: on the person you want to talk to.

Items to mention include clothing, accessories, and shoes. On a more personal level, consider haircuts, smiles, fitness, and body art.

For example,

  • "Great shoes!"
  • "Love your briefcase / purse / necklace / earrings / blouse color …."
  • "What an unusual / striking / colorful / attractive / interesting / unique bracelet!"

Bonus tip:

If you're tongue-tied on your feet, check your online thesaurus for adjectives. Make a list. To keep them top of mind, review them daily or weekly.

Tip # 2. Follow-up your compliment with a question

Ask a question that calls for an explanation, not a short, pat answer. The meatier the question, the better. For example:

  • Too pat: "Great shoes! Where did you get them?" Will do when you can not think of anything else to say.
  • Better: "Great running shoes. There are so many styles and brands.
  • Too pat: "That's a flattering color on you.
  • Better: "That's a flattering style on you." How did you learn to dress so well? (A terrific follow-up to that is "What other talents do you have?"
  • Too pat: "You look like a creative person." Are you an artist? "
  • Better: "You look like a creative person."
  • A little too pat: "Love your ring / watch / shirt.
  • Better: "Your ring is unusual. Does it have a story?" [This is one of my favorite follow-up questions.]
  • Too pat: "You look fit. Do you work out?"
  • Better: "You look fit. Tell me how you stay that way."

If you can not think of a follow-up conversation question, that's okay. Give yourself points for breaking the ice. Be a good coach and tell yourself "You'll do better next time."

Tip # 3. Practice, practice, practice

Three ways to practice breaking the ice:

  • Compliment one person, any person, every time you're waiting in line to buy something. Tell yourself that you're getting experience so that when attractive someone comes along, you'll be confident of your ability to break the ice.
  • Sit down at a mall or park. Think of a compliment and follow-up question for every person who walks by. If someone close enough, say it out loud. Have fun!
  • Get a magazine. Think of a compliment & question for each person in the pictures and ads. If you're intimidated by attractive women – or men – focus on them.

Once you've broken the ice, ask more good conversation questions.

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Tracey E. Bennett

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